These couples come to me as a last straw: they constantly argue and fight (perhaps not constantly, but it can seem as if it never ends).
When asked to describe the arguments, a couple can get a better sense of the purpose of their aguments. Perhaps it’s a way to keep the relationship passionate (particularly if sex isn’t happening). Perhaps it’s a way to keep the relationship from changing, such as an intimacy-regulator.
Hypothesising about the purpose of the arguments – treating the arguments as a symptom of something yet unknown – can be helpful.
Once understood, the couple can find new ways to rebuild their intimacy and trust (usually finding that the arguments diminish or take on a different purpose or quality as time passes).Contact Dean today…