Five Secrets of Happier Gay Couples

Thu, 06 Sep 2012 14:00:38 +0000

Common behaviours of Gay Couples during Couple Therapy.

Working with gay & lesbian couples in my private practice, it’s been my privilege to learn from a set of people who are bringing their most treasured and fragile position to me for help: their relationship.

At the early stages of couple counselling, I usually only get to see the unhappy gay couple. However, for most (though not all) couples, as the counselling sessions progress I see their relationship begin to change as both partners work on learning about how their relationship’s “system” is triggered into unhappiness, and then putting in wants, checks and measures to change their behaviour patterns. The couple’s relationship transitions through stages where the couple can see something positive happening and the two become happier with their partnership.

This article therefore comes from many observations of couples who were working in counselling to rescue and transform their relationship. No single couple is identified & the confidentiality of all couples I work with is maintained.

I present for your consideration: Five Secrets of Happier Gay Couples…

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Handbook of Structured Techniques in Marriage and Family Therapy

Thu, 14 Jun 2012 12:06:08 +0000

“Handbook of Structured Techniques in Marriage and Family Therapy”.

Authors: Robert Sherman & Norman Fredman.

ISBN: 0-87630-424-2

In couple therapy it’s important that the couple be encouraged and assisted in coming up with their own perturbing solutions to their restricting relationship problems. The therapist “prescribing” courses of action may be helpful, but without the couple’s own investment in their own recovery, prescriptive advice can become like school homework: it has to be done (or avoided) rather than the couple wanting to do it. Some couples struggle to be creative, though. Having behaved how they believed they should have been doing (some for decades), being invited to do something different will be a struggle.

In this book – the authors describe excercises that may give the couple inspiration about what they might invent for themselves.

Each excerise takes the following format:-

A theoretical base (eg Rationale)
An overview of the exercise.
A description of the procedure (how to do the exercise)
An example.
Suggested uses – where this exercise might help
A brief bibliography of resources that cover this exercise.

There are 59 in total.

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