Five Secrets of Happier Gay Couples
Posted by on 6 Sep, 2012 in Gay Relationships | 0 comments
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In Conclusion: how gay couples make long-term relationships work
[iCLoadDefinitions]In couple therapy, helping a gay couple to disengage with what they thought was supposed to be the right way to behave in their relationship and helping them to engage creatively and with inspiration about what they would both like in the form of behaviours can contribute enormously to making their relationship work for them.
From a psychodynamic perspective, we being in a lot of unresolved material from our childhoods and growing-up periods; gay men and women especially. We the conflicts, suppress the memories, and try to live life forgetful about our pasts. Then our partner (unintentionally) does something that triggers off a response in us … a response that’s from our distant and buried pasts … and we respond to our partner with fireworks. This would be where psychodynamic / systemic couple therapy would be an appropriate and effective form of help
Alternatively, our secure and containing relationship avoids the trigger and our relationship contain and sooth the bad reminders from our pasts.
… after all, there’s simply no relationship quite like ours, if we’re ready to believe this is so 🙂
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